You have heard this before, the recipe to become successful includes reading a book per week, having a mentor and networking. Let me write a bit about successful networking.
As they say ‘Your network determines your net-worth.’ It is the people you know that link you up to your helpers. Unfortunately, networking is a rarely taught subject even in most business schools. Consequently, I have watched over and over again people making terrible mistakes when building their networks.
One networking mistake that I have realized is the tendency of bad mouthing others. Nobody likes someone that always brings bad news about their manager, friends, spouse or children. It is crucial for you to learn to avoid talking bad about where you are coming from. Stop bad mouthing your former spouse, former employer, former supplier or former clients.
For instance, I have seen many people fail job interviews because they negatively answered the question, ‘Why did you leave your last employer?’ They respond, “The boss was a wicked person …” Who wants to hear that? While it may be true that your former boss was bad, you should not go around ‘preaching’ it. It reflects badly on your character.
When you speak negative about someone else to me, that is enough evidence that after talking to me; you are most likely going to bad mouth me. Thus, when hiring managers hear you speak negative about your past, they immediately classify you as a traitor. Hiring managers assume that if they hire you, soon you will be bad mouthing them. So, they would rather leave you alone without hiring you. That is something you definitely do not want.
So, the next time you are asked why you left your former job, avoid bitter and unacceptable words. Say something positive which demonstrates maturity in the sense that you have managed to move on with life.
Written by Wilbert R. Mutoko (Best-selling author of 15 Secrets for Personal Financial Success and Author of What you have is enough)
Copyright © 2 June 2016
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