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When no one is willing to help you

Reflections with Dr. Wilbert R. Mutoko

2 April 2018

This morning I was thinking about my journey in personal development, and I remembered how many doors I knocked on at a young age, but most doors refused to open. However, with a dogged determination and a never-give-up attitude, by God’s grace, I have managed to develop myself academically and career-wise. Probably you find yourself in an unfavorable situation. Wait. You are not alone. It is never too late to achieve your dreams.

When I was in high school, at Dewedzo Secondary School in rural Rusape, Manicaland, Zimbabwe; my dear father made it very clear that he could not pay for me to go through A-Level: “As you can see, there are five more children behind you and I do not have enough money to pay school fees for you in A-Level because I will be taking care of the other children,” said my father with a no-turning-back kind of emphasis. I obviously did not receive the sad news well. I was such a hard-working boy. I was so focused on my studies such that I came top of my class almost all the time. Now my dreams of becoming somebody in life were fizzling out because there was no money for A-Level!

My father and mother were very loving and caring parents. I will forever be grateful for their sacrifices to raise my siblings and me in hard circumstances. My dad, Mark Tichaona Mutoko is my hero. MHSRIP. He was a hardworking gentleman, the father that any child would love to grow up under. Unfortunately, he was not that educated, hence his career was low status to low-medium status. But he always outdid himself to take care of the family. I salute my dad in absentia. My mum Irene was not educated. She was such a tough, but loving mum; always working diligently alongside my dad to support the family. Amazing mum! God bless my mum, my heroine (I dedicated my PhD thesis to her and my late dad).

Back to my predicament. Thank goodness! One of my wealthy uncles who was a member of parliament and cabinet minister visited our high school and promised that he was going to pay A-Level school fees in full for three or so students that would come out with flying colors at O-Level. Wow! Knowing that I was one of the best students completing O-Level, I knew that I had just gotten A-Level funding right there. What a relief to me and my parents! Finally help had come! But, wait. Not so fast my friend!

My uncle never lived to his promise. Obviously, my dad relaxed, and did not prepare for my A-Level studies. I found a place at Nyatsime College in Chitungwiza, Zimbabwe to study for A-Level and I enrolled for first year. However, my uncle continued to promise that he would pay fees. I later realized that the uncle never intended to pay fees for me but to get sponsors. The sponsors were taking their time throughout the year with no action.

My face became very familiar at the Parliament House in Harare where I kept following up my uncle to pay school fees, but all in vain.

Friends, poverty and lack are bad. I suffered! Throughout the year I was being chased away from school for not paying fees. At first, we were many students in the category of ‘owing for school fees’. But after some time, all other students managed to get intervention and their school fees were paid. As for me, it was a painful road. I remembered, at one-time visiting Zimbabwe Council of Churches offices where I got a donation of Z$300. I was so relieved (may God bless Zimbabwe Council of Churches), but the money was insufficient to pay for owed fees at that time. I knocked on all the doors of rich people that I knew, relatives and non-relatives alike. But doors were tightly locked. They gave one excuse after the other.

The following year, I heard that my uncle’s sponsors finally cleared my school fees bill for the year that I had studied first year A-Level. But I had moved on.

Have you ever sought help from everyone and no help comes your way? What do you do when no one is willing to assist you?

When I saw that I had completed first year of A-Level in debt, being chased away from school almost every other day; I told my parents that I needed to stop A-Level schooling. My parents were hurt that our uncle had failed to meet his promise, but there was no choice, except for me to stop school.

I then visited my auntie Mavis who stayed in Marondera, in Dombotombo with her family. I related the story to her and her husband. Immediately, the couple agreed to take me in so that I could complete A-Level in Marondera through night school. My hopes were lit again. At least, I had accommodation. But what about school fees? The fees were much less for evening school at Nyameni High School, but was there any sponsor?

I told my dad, who was already overloaded with taking care of rest of family. Thank God, my dad agreed to borrow money and hustle to pay the school fees. However, I needed money for textbooks also. I went to my former teachers at Dewedzo Secondary School. My former teachers were not able to assist me. But a good Samaritan, Mr. Muronda who was not my former teacher offered to fund me for textbooks for the whole year (may God remember his kindness. I am still looking for him to say thank you).

Going to night school with elderly people was not funny. Imagine you are 18 to 19 years old and you attend school with fathers, mothers and grandfathers and grandmothers! Most of them took time to understand concepts, so teachers had to repeat lessons. Some of them did not attend school regularly … There was no choice. I worked extremely hard and I spend most of my time in the government library, until my auntie Mavis got worried that I was reading too much. She would regularly say, “The way you study is too much. You will end up going mad!” But I was seeing a glorious future. I wanted to turn around a rural life of owning only bicycles instead of cars and properties. I wanted to grow and change my life and that of others. So I kept on studying hard, no girl friends, no love affairs. Serious about school.

Thank God for my dad. He worked extra hard and raised the school fees throughout the year and examination fees (I wish he was alive today to see his boy now a MBA and PhD holder making impact on many lives across the world as an Author, Financial Adviser, Leadership Strategist and International Motivational Speaker, Pastor and Business Doctor).

Unfortunately, Satan decided to make my life more miserable during final year A-Level. Satan struck me with a sickness which no one understood. I went with my parents to all kind of doctors – private doctors, public doctors, witch doctors and prophets, plus many churches; but my condition deteriorated, and I stopped going to school from April 1994 until 17 October 1994. Examinations started on 21 October 1994.

Thank God for my cousin Bethrem and his wife Dorcas (now they are pastors. May God remember their love and kindness) who invited me to Mutare to be prayed for by pastors. When I got there, the pastors helped me to understand scriptures and helped me to receive Jesus as my Lord and Savior. They then prayed for me and I was instantly healed. Wow! A new life began, and I went back to Marondera to write exams after I had not been going to school nor studying for months. Thus I was healed on 17 October and I started writing examinations three days later. As expected, I could not score enough points to go to varsity. However, I qualified to go to Mutare Teachers College where I trained as a secondary teacher – Geography and Accounts.

My desire was insatiable. After completing the Diploma in Secondary education funded by the government of Zimbabwe in 1998, I went to teach in the rural areas of Hurungwe. I enrolled for Chartered Institute of Secretaries and Administrators. A journey of taking myself to school began. I am afraid that this is becoming an article too long. To see what else happened, you can visit my profile:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-wilbert-r-mutoko-phd-fhea-00480029/

So, back to you. What is happening to you? Are people refusing to help you? Are you seated at home, not knowing what to to do? Is it that you do not like your current job or business? Are you in a financial mess or relationship mess? Perhaps you need to go back to school. Probably you need to work harder than before. You need to stop blaming government, anyone or any situation. Arise and take your future into your hands.

I wrote this article to encourage you in tough times and to keep focused on what you want to achieve in life. Put your trust in God and be in love with him. It can take time, but do not lose heart. There is a seed of greatness in you. We are waiting for the seed to sprout and grow big. Last of all, after you have made it, remember to help others.

 

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Who are your mentors? Who are you mentoring?

Inspiration with Dr Wilbert R Mutoko

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‘He who cannot be a good follower cannot be a good leader.’ – Aristotle

In my quest to influence others to make a difference and to develop exemplary leaders of repute, leaders in the home, leaders in firms, leaders in government, leaders everywhere, and leaders without positions; I bring you the challenge of mentoring others and you following mentors.

I ask again the question, ‘Who are your mentors? Who are you mentoring?’

If your answers are none and none, may I conclude that you are not yet a true leader? Yes you might be in a leadership position, but not effectively leading. Leaders care about learning from other leaders and they empower others to succeed. Leaders are not just interested in results, but inspiring and developing other people.

Everyone needs mentors. Mentors are people that guide you and speak into your life. They are your models and you are accountable to them. You rarely do any crucial thing without first informing them or asking for advice. One can have mentors for different things – business mentor, financial mentor, marriage mentor, career mentor, academic mentor, spiritual mentor etc. A mentor must have attained success in the area they mentor you in.

In my experience, good mentors are like ladders that help you succeed faster by avoiding mistakes that could cost you dearly. Your mentor’s past mistakes will not happen to you because the mentor’s experience becomes your bridge. Furthermore, guidance from a good mentor is next to no other intervention in life.

I have also learnt that true leaders wish to locate ready mentees who can take over from where they have left. There is no true leader that wants to die before they pass on the relay button to one or more genuine followers that carry forward what they were doing. The biggest challenge however, is that it is not easy to find a humble, ready-to- learn, accountable, patient and persistent follower who will follow all the way.

Let me try to distinguish a mentor from a coach in my own words. A mentor is different from a coach. A coach can be someone who has no personal experience in the area which they assist you, but they know how to teach others to do as expected. That is why some football coaches, for instance, have never played football, but they are good coaches that have acquired knowledge in the area and they know how to teach others to do likewise. While everyone prefers mentors, coaches are also very helpful, whether it’s a financial coach, health coach, business coach etc. Nevertheless, mentors tend to produce more results than coaches due to their own experience. But that is a debatable issue which I leave to you.

One can have paid mentors and in some cases one can get unpaid, voluntary mentors. As they say, there is nothing for free. Free things are cheap. So, you should be willing to pay for quality mentorship. It is not easy to get unpaid mentors in today’s world. But if you are privileged to get one, you must be very grateful, and do everything possible to submit yourself to them, keep them updated, avoid lack of communication, honor them, be of benefit to them in any way possible, avoid being like a tick that just sucks blood from its host and never contributes anything except pain and diseases. A mentor is excited when you follow their example and you in turn mentor others. Failure to mentor others is failure to be a good follower. If others have been kind to you by mentoring you, why would you be so selfish that you mentor no one?

As a mentee, make sure that you humble yourself. Firstly, your mentor does not need you. You are the one that needs a mentor. Your mentor was successful before you came into their lives. So without you, they have more time to concentrate on their lives. So never deceive yourself by thinking that you are doing the mentor a favor by being their mentee. The mentor is actually doing you a favor.

Secondly, after a few mentorship lessons, do not be too quick to think that you are now better than your mentor. Keep humble, keep learning; your mentor is like a deep well that has gathered wisdom over years and in some cases decades. So for you to think that after one year you have already drawn all the wisdom from the mentor is to fool yourself.

Thirdly, as much as possible, get interested in your mentor, what they do and his or her family. Pray for your mentor and family. Offer to tutor mentor’s child, clean their home or office, and do something, especially if you are mentored for free. You cannot afford to keep drawing from the mentor without planting a seed in their life. Honor your mentor, remember their birthday, be there when they have challenges, and be helpful and grateful always.

Fourthly, find someone eager to learn from you and start helping them to take steps towards success. Help them to set and pursue goals. Refer them to books that can change their lives. Link them to people that matter. All of us have something to offer. All of us can mentor someone. For instance, if you are a tertiary student, you can mentor a primary or secondary school student. If you are a successful business person, there is someone out there seeking to become an entrepreneur. Go ahead and mentor them. If you are successful in career, there is someone young in career that needs you. Whether paid or unpaid, you must be mentoring some people out there. Whether online or offline, you must be mentoring some people. Remember, you are blessed to be a blessing (Genesis 12:1-3).

Let us develop and maintain mentor – mentee relationships and take our countries to another level. This ensures transference of leadership skills and competences, as well as passing on the nature of caring and sustained success.

If we are to have great leaders and to enjoy peace and perpetual success in all facets of life – spiritual, business, financial, family, health, academic, and career; we must all be mentored and we must all mentor others.

All the best

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Opportunities

5th February 2018

By Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

 

Opportunities are not permanent. Therefore, exploit them swiftly.

Opportunities usually come through people that you do not expect. There are people who are unemployed, uneducated, poor or ill today. Many will not be keen to assist such because they can not see the invisible; the great future hidden in those unfortunate people. If you disregard someone and they later become great, you will have missed.

Furthermore, a challenge or crisis can be an opportunity. Seize it.

Being honest, ethical and kind can be an opportunity to be great and favored. Saying ‘NO’ to corruption could present an opportunity for promotion, now or in future.

Opportunities are everywhere. All we need is to be prepared, to open our eyes, and to act swiftly when opportunity knocks.

What opportunities have you missed in the past?

What opportunities came to you as challenges and you exploited them?

What opportunities came to you as people suffering; you helped them expecting nothing in return, and later it benefited you?

What opportunities are ahead of you?

Are you ready for the coming opportunities, whether challenges, people etc?

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FOCUS ON THE PRESENT AND LEARN FROM THE PAST

With Dr. Wilbert R. Mutoko (PhD)

14 June 2017

In every quarter, people are being encouraged with motivational words that cause them to focus on their dreams.

Focusing on the future is very good and I inspire many people to do the same.

However, I have realized that sometimes we emphasize too much on the future and forget about today and even yesterday.

If you ignore your yesterday and today, how do you make your tomorrow successful?

I know that some people propose that we must never think about yesterday for it is past. But, have you ever heard that history has a tendency to repeat itself? There is nothing new under the sun. You and I can still learn from our past successes and past mistakes alike so that our dreams can be more informed and better shaped.

What happens if you forget your today, and instead focus on your dreams? You neglect your present responsibilities in exchange for a future that you have not even grasp as yet.

In conclusion, let us all learn from our past, let us maximize our present opportunities and take daily steps that lead to successful fulfillment of our dreams. Otherwise, we may sit and wait for a better future which may never come.

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NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS

12 MAY 2017

 

With Dr. Wilbert R. Mutoko

I came across the testimony of a Pastor that was raped on her wedding day and later lost her husband. Watching her narrating the story was so touching. However, what encourages most is the fact that she has moved on with life and she is a happy and successful woman.

It doesn’t matter what you are going through. Hold on and fight. You will emerge a winner if only you do not give up.

I love you and I am waiting for that day when you share your testimony of triumph.

Life can be rough. But keep fighting!

Here is the link to the video:

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SAME MISTAKE BY BUSINESS LEADERS

8 May 2017

 

With Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

 

I see business leaders repeat the same mistake over and over again, and it worries me. Some managers expect their staff members to give customers an exceptional experience. But the managers do not give their staff exceptional work experience.

As a leader, if you truly want your team to maximize productivity and to treat customers as they should be treated – as kings and queens, you will have to start treating your juniors as your customers. Then your juniors will go ahead and give a wow customer service to the consumers.

How do you expect demotivated employees to give best service?

How do you expect unsettled employees to give customers a settled service?

Does your team feel welcome in the workplace?

Does your staff go the extra mile because you as the leader go the extra mile to address their welfare concerns?

Are you aware that it is more costly to look for new employees than to keep the existing ones?

If you are ill-treating your juniors, are you aware that instead of them spending time adding value to your organization and to customers; your staff spends time looking for jobs elsewhere?

Are you willing to give your staff an exceptional experience so that in turn they do the same to customers?

I hope you choose to do the needful. Treat your team with honor and see them treat customers with honor. If they do not treat customers well, yet you treat your staff well, then there is no choice, you have my vote to relieve such staff from their duties.

 

 

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Never tire from chasing your dream

2 May 2017

 

With Dr. Wilbert R. Mutoko

When you are chasing your dream, people may not understand you. Tough times will discourage you. Adverse circumstances will come your way, but keep your eye on the end result. If you don’t give up, we will soon celebrate with you.

Between February 2014 and December 2016, I embarked on a degree in Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) in Business Management. The journey was tough. Many times I thought of quitting. But I kept going because I was looking at the goal. I kept going mainly because of God’s grace. I kept going because of wonderful family, friends, workmates and acquaintances. I am so grateful to all of you and those that took part in my research. You are so precious to me, to Botswana, to SADC, to Africa and the world at large.

Graduation was on 25 April 2017 at North-West University, Mafikeng, South Africa and it was so colorful.

I love you!

The sky can not limit you.

See you at the top!

# From rural boy to Doctor of Business Management.
# All things are possible.
#Time to serve my continent. #Inspiration. # You will make it!

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