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Who are your mentors? Who are you mentoring?

Inspiration with Dr Wilbert R Mutoko

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‘He who cannot be a good follower cannot be a good leader.’ – Aristotle

In my quest to influence others to make a difference and to develop exemplary leaders of repute, leaders in the home, leaders in firms, leaders in government, leaders everywhere, and leaders without positions; I bring you the challenge of mentoring others and you following mentors.

I ask again the question, ‘Who are your mentors? Who are you mentoring?’

If your answers are none and none, may I conclude that you are not yet a true leader? Yes you might be in a leadership position, but not effectively leading. Leaders care about learning from other leaders and they empower others to succeed. Leaders are not just interested in results, but inspiring and developing other people.

Everyone needs mentors. Mentors are people that guide you and speak into your life. They are your models and you are accountable to them. You rarely do any crucial thing without first informing them or asking for advice. One can have mentors for different things – business mentor, financial mentor, marriage mentor, career mentor, academic mentor, spiritual mentor etc. A mentor must have attained success in the area they mentor you in.

In my experience, good mentors are like ladders that help you succeed faster by avoiding mistakes that could cost you dearly. Your mentor’s past mistakes will not happen to you because the mentor’s experience becomes your bridge. Furthermore, guidance from a good mentor is next to no other intervention in life.

I have also learnt that true leaders wish to locate ready mentees who can take over from where they have left. There is no true leader that wants to die before they pass on the relay button to one or more genuine followers that carry forward what they were doing. The biggest challenge however, is that it is not easy to find a humble, ready-to- learn, accountable, patient and persistent follower who will follow all the way.

Let me try to distinguish a mentor from a coach in my own words. A mentor is different from a coach. A coach can be someone who has no personal experience in the area which they assist you, but they know how to teach others to do as expected. That is why some football coaches, for instance, have never played football, but they are good coaches that have acquired knowledge in the area and they know how to teach others to do likewise. While everyone prefers mentors, coaches are also very helpful, whether it’s a financial coach, health coach, business coach etc. Nevertheless, mentors tend to produce more results than coaches due to their own experience. But that is a debatable issue which I leave to you.

One can have paid mentors and in some cases one can get unpaid, voluntary mentors. As they say, there is nothing for free. Free things are cheap. So, you should be willing to pay for quality mentorship. It is not easy to get unpaid mentors in today’s world. But if you are privileged to get one, you must be very grateful, and do everything possible to submit yourself to them, keep them updated, avoid lack of communication, honor them, be of benefit to them in any way possible, avoid being like a tick that just sucks blood from its host and never contributes anything except pain and diseases. A mentor is excited when you follow their example and you in turn mentor others. Failure to mentor others is failure to be a good follower. If others have been kind to you by mentoring you, why would you be so selfish that you mentor no one?

As a mentee, make sure that you humble yourself. Firstly, your mentor does not need you. You are the one that needs a mentor. Your mentor was successful before you came into their lives. So without you, they have more time to concentrate on their lives. So never deceive yourself by thinking that you are doing the mentor a favor by being their mentee. The mentor is actually doing you a favor.

Secondly, after a few mentorship lessons, do not be too quick to think that you are now better than your mentor. Keep humble, keep learning; your mentor is like a deep well that has gathered wisdom over years and in some cases decades. So for you to think that after one year you have already drawn all the wisdom from the mentor is to fool yourself.

Thirdly, as much as possible, get interested in your mentor, what they do and his or her family. Pray for your mentor and family. Offer to tutor mentor’s child, clean their home or office, and do something, especially if you are mentored for free. You cannot afford to keep drawing from the mentor without planting a seed in their life. Honor your mentor, remember their birthday, be there when they have challenges, and be helpful and grateful always.

Fourthly, find someone eager to learn from you and start helping them to take steps towards success. Help them to set and pursue goals. Refer them to books that can change their lives. Link them to people that matter. All of us have something to offer. All of us can mentor someone. For instance, if you are a tertiary student, you can mentor a primary or secondary school student. If you are a successful business person, there is someone out there seeking to become an entrepreneur. Go ahead and mentor them. If you are successful in career, there is someone young in career that needs you. Whether paid or unpaid, you must be mentoring some people out there. Whether online or offline, you must be mentoring some people. Remember, you are blessed to be a blessing (Genesis 12:1-3).

Let us develop and maintain mentor – mentee relationships and take our countries to another level. This ensures transference of leadership skills and competences, as well as passing on the nature of caring and sustained success.

If we are to have great leaders and to enjoy peace and perpetual success in all facets of life – spiritual, business, financial, family, health, academic, and career; we must all be mentored and we must all mentor others.

All the best

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THE PATH WAY TO THE TOP

5th October 2017

With Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

I could tell you how to succeed in life, relationships, marriage, school, business, ministry, health or career. But guess what, I wish I knew how to tell you how to succeed quickly.

Some things will sure demand time and patience from you. Some level of success will definitely demand sleep away from your eyes. Some success level will inflict pain on your back bone. Some level of achievement will rob you of time to socialize and be yourself.

Similarly, raising well-behaved children is not an overnight success. Nor is building a blissful marriage something that comes by luck. The same can be said about building a great business, career or ministry. It takes commitment over many years.

Some people ask me how I have been able to write books, travel across the continent as a motivational speaker; do corporate training; mentor & coach people; volunteer my services to Churches, prisons, hospitals, orphanages, and homes of disabled; offer free counseling etc, and still I have time for my family.

I wish I could be able to explain convincingly. But it takes willingness to consistently re-invent oneself and being on the move to self-betterment and making a difference in other people’s lives every day.

That is why one of my mentors puts it this way when someone asks him for one nutshell for success in ministry or business, “There is no one nutshell. There are many ‘Naughty shells’. Go and find out.”

What do you think?

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Dealing with Challenges

18 September 2017

With Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko (PhD, FHEA)

Challenges will always come to you. However, what matters most is not how tough the challenges are, but rather how you respond to the challenges.

Similarly, seasons of life are not the same. Some people enjoy winter, while others enjoy summer.

Paradoxically, many people neither like summer nor winter. Those are the realities of life.

It is not which season you are in that matters, but rather how you respond to the season. That is why when winter comes, you buy and wear warm clothes. At the same time, when summer comes, you change your wardrobe.

How do you respond to challenges as a leader?

How do react to challenges as a follower?

What about as a team player?

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FOCUS ON THE PRESENT AND LEARN FROM THE PAST

With Dr. Wilbert R. Mutoko (PhD)

14 June 2017

In every quarter, people are being encouraged with motivational words that cause them to focus on their dreams.

Focusing on the future is very good and I inspire many people to do the same.

However, I have realized that sometimes we emphasize too much on the future and forget about today and even yesterday.

If you ignore your yesterday and today, how do you make your tomorrow successful?

I know that some people propose that we must never think about yesterday for it is past. But, have you ever heard that history has a tendency to repeat itself? There is nothing new under the sun. You and I can still learn from our past successes and past mistakes alike so that our dreams can be more informed and better shaped.

What happens if you forget your today, and instead focus on your dreams? You neglect your present responsibilities in exchange for a future that you have not even grasp as yet.

In conclusion, let us all learn from our past, let us maximize our present opportunities and take daily steps that lead to successful fulfillment of our dreams. Otherwise, we may sit and wait for a better future which may never come.

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ADD VALUE

11 May 2017

With Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

 

Do I need to say much about your need to add value to organizations and individuals if you want success?

If you add value to more people, you create a chance to earn more honor, more money, more opportunities, more friends, and more favor.

How much value are you adding?

 

 

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SAME MISTAKE BY BUSINESS LEADERS

8 May 2017

 

With Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

 

I see business leaders repeat the same mistake over and over again, and it worries me. Some managers expect their staff members to give customers an exceptional experience. But the managers do not give their staff exceptional work experience.

As a leader, if you truly want your team to maximize productivity and to treat customers as they should be treated – as kings and queens, you will have to start treating your juniors as your customers. Then your juniors will go ahead and give a wow customer service to the consumers.

How do you expect demotivated employees to give best service?

How do you expect unsettled employees to give customers a settled service?

Does your team feel welcome in the workplace?

Does your staff go the extra mile because you as the leader go the extra mile to address their welfare concerns?

Are you aware that it is more costly to look for new employees than to keep the existing ones?

If you are ill-treating your juniors, are you aware that instead of them spending time adding value to your organization and to customers; your staff spends time looking for jobs elsewhere?

Are you willing to give your staff an exceptional experience so that in turn they do the same to customers?

I hope you choose to do the needful. Treat your team with honor and see them treat customers with honor. If they do not treat customers well, yet you treat your staff well, then there is no choice, you have my vote to relieve such staff from their duties.

 

 

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Never tire from chasing your dream

2 May 2017

 

With Dr. Wilbert R. Mutoko

When you are chasing your dream, people may not understand you. Tough times will discourage you. Adverse circumstances will come your way, but keep your eye on the end result. If you don’t give up, we will soon celebrate with you.

Between February 2014 and December 2016, I embarked on a degree in Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) in Business Management. The journey was tough. Many times I thought of quitting. But I kept going because I was looking at the goal. I kept going mainly because of God’s grace. I kept going because of wonderful family, friends, workmates and acquaintances. I am so grateful to all of you and those that took part in my research. You are so precious to me, to Botswana, to SADC, to Africa and the world at large.

Graduation was on 25 April 2017 at North-West University, Mafikeng, South Africa and it was so colorful.

I love you!

The sky can not limit you.

See you at the top!

# From rural boy to Doctor of Business Management.
# All things are possible.
#Time to serve my continent. #Inspiration. # You will make it!

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